If you were to forget about the Arc, you can have a Sonos HT surround system using two Sonos Amps, where the one Amp will handle the three front channels (incl. a phantom Center) and you can attach a 3rd party ‘active’ Sub to that. Then use the 2nd Amp for the rear channels (ceiling speakers). That will work fine for both TV/Music audio. But…
If you were to setup the Arc & Amp for your HT surround system and then also use another Amp with a 3rd party Sub attached (as suggested in your post) - you can ‘group’ that with the Arc and whilst that will be fine for music audio playback, it will ‘highly likely’ be problematic to you for TV surround audio, as the ‘grouping’ process uses audio buffering (approx. 30-70ms delay), which means the Amp/Sub audio will play out of sync with the Arc TV audio. So I would not recommend this approach - you would be much better off selling your 3rd-party Sub and getting a Sonos Sub instead IMHO.
Hope that assists.